“No man is an island,” the saying goes. But you could be fooled by looking at the way we often behave. I’ve been thinking about this topic because my father is having a tough time caring for my stepmother, who has dementia. He isn’t doing it alone, as my stepsisters and stepbrother do all they can to help. However, things seem to have got to a stage where that is not enough, and I am relieved that my Dad has finally asked for more help. It seems it is still difficult for him to accept this help – I think he still has the feeling that he should be able to cope. Cope with the house, as well as being a carer all his waking hours. But no one can carry on like that indefinitely, so it is a relief to me that he will be getting more help and support in the coming weeks.
These days, help and support comes from a much wider group than just our local neighbours, as my husband demonstrated to me over the weekend by making use of a forum to get some advice and support. And help isn’t limited to physical or even to people. Many find emotional and spiritual help from their faith, or from the packs of cards that have become so popular now. I chose a card this morning from Doreen Virtue’s Ascended Masters card set to support me in the week ahead. The card which came out of the deck for me was the Power of Joy, the ascended master in question being Maitraya, the laughing Buddha. I can literally call on Maitraya to support me. Or if it is a step too far for you to ask a specific spirit for help, it works just as well to think of them as aspects of yourself. We all have reserves, which we can call on in times of need.
The other side of the coin, of course, is to offer help to those who need it. This is how we build a society that works. Even when help has not been asked for there are things we can offer anyone, such as a smile, or understanding rather than judging. Thinking about it, helping others is one route to joy, so perhaps that is my focus for this week as I visit my Dad.